Most recently, he had a good position in all respects. He was respected by his colleagues and had his own opinion on many key issues, courageous in making fateful decisions. But suddenly everything changed: the economy cracked, the company collapsed.
The situation is not simple, but quite solvable: if the spouse is not a congenital lazy person, but only for everything – an unemployed person who has fallen under the roller of forced layoffs in the post-crisis period. There is no need to immediately press and rush him, let him come to his senses, morally rest and accumulate strength and nerves. It will not be superfluous to tell him to register at the labor exchange in order to receive benefits in the next 3 months after dismissal. If the forced downtime period has lengthened and your husband has not corrected his situation, it’s time for you to start.
First, you should talk to your spouse about what prospects he sees in his future career, and what he is going to do to improve them. In the course of the conversation, you can tell him that you, as the only breadwinner in the family so far, have a hard time. In addition, you are also not immune to possible layoffs. After that, you can discuss the family budget with him – you can analyze your income and the last family, as well as planned expenses for the next period. Men trust and accept real numbers better than empty and emotional tirades. Try to convey to him the idea that since he is temporarily unable to work, he is still obliged to perform certain household duties that you previously performed. For example, buying and preparing food, buying all kinds of household goods, cleaning the apartment, washing things. Household work, as we well know, is an endless process. But, unfortunately, there are few spouses who can manage the household as you did.
A spouse who has been unemployed for a long time, of course, has slightly lower self-esteem. He begins to think that since he is not in demand, then he is not a good enough and qualified worker. This should be stopped. Periodically encourage and express the hope that he will soon find a job and will continue to provide for his family. Do everything to convince him that this is a normal situation that can affect anyone, regardless of his or her some kind of professional qualities. In no case should you give him, even indirectly, a reason to think that he is burdening the family? After all, you need support, not humiliation of his dignity.
If your spouse is determined and ready to move mountains, then we can confidently say that half the job is done. Now all that remains is to find a suitable vacancy for her husband. How can you help your spouse with this?
Here are some tips for finding a job in this situation:
1) Find out from friends and acquaintances about vacancies in the companies where they work. Maybe there is something suitable there.
2) Analyze his resume yourself: maybe you need to correct or supplement it a little.
3) Form a list of questions that a potential employer can ask him during an interview. Rehearse with him the interview itself.
4) Search the job sites on your own for more or less suitable vacancies for your spouse.
5) Work a little on his appearance: maybe you need to update his wardrobe, find a suitable tie, etc.
These tips will help you to survive this difficult period in your life together harmoniously and with minimal emotional losses. We are confident that your role in solving this problem can be key, and you should not only support your husband but also decisively provide him with the help and advice he needs.
